Pic: View at Sunrise from top of Rockfort Temple at Trichy, India.
I could never have imagined that cancer, especially breast cancer would touch my own life so closely, that too a few days after I ran the Virtual Breast Cancer half-marathon in New York City.
My parents had cancelled their visit to US this January due to my mother’s poor health. I was concerned and decided to go to India in February to see my mother. And I am glad I went.
I had no idea how bad her condition was and how rapidly her health had deteriorated. When I saw her, she was barely able to walk and had lost a lot of weight. She had had a hip surgery 2 years ago and is diabetic. She had also been diagnosed with post-menopausal osteoporosis. I had assumed she was unable to walk due to post-hip surgery complications, but as it turned out, I was terribly wrong.
She looked gaunt, frail, disheveled and depressed. Her immobility had meant fewer trips to the bathroom and infrequent baths. A few days into my stay at our home in Trichy, things got to a stage where she couldn’t even get up to walk and thus could no longer hobble to the toilet on her own. That’s when I realized how grave the situation was.
I took her to a well known Bone and Joint Hospital in Trichy. That’s how most orthopedic hospitals are called here for simplicity’s sake. The X-ray immediately confirmed her right femur (thigh) bone had fractured into two . No wonder she could not walk!
More was to come. A routine examination by a woman doctor also revealed a large tumor in her left breast. A complete scan the next day confirmed the presence of cancer in the breast, left shoulder and left arm. No one had taught her breast self-examination and though she had intuitively known something was seriously wrong with her, she had no idea what it could be. She had to be operated upon twice the same day, once to remove the breast and surrounding tissues and again to fix her thigh bone with a metal plate.
I spent two stressful but fruitful weeks at the hospital. My mother was in much pain after the surgery, but the color had returned to her face and she no longer looked sickly. Her cancer treatment is yet to start but she now knows she can hope to recover.
She is only 69 years old, but with her rapidly worsening condition, she may not have survived for long and so I am glad I went to India. I could see her alive and do what I could to help her. I wish I could have stayed with her longer, but I have work in NY that I cannot abandon. I need to earn a living and when possible, financially support her care.
My mother’s case proves how vital early detection is in the fight against breast cancer.
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March 22, 2010 at 9:43 pm
I Run For Fun
That is terrible! So sorry your mom was in so much pain. But looks like your visit really helped her. Wish her a speedy recovery.
@kavi – Thanks for your kind words.
March 23, 2010 at 8:07 pm
knitnkanmani
i feel for your mom.
trichy is a very warm place its tough w/o bath …I am native Blore but our entire extended famil is from trivhy in fact my all my cuzns studied in RSK ,and shanmugha
@knitnkanmani – Thanks for your nice words and for visiting my blog.
March 24, 2010 at 7:33 am
Dennis
Ravi, my thoughts and prayers are with your Mom, you, and your family. I’m glad you visited when you did.
@Dennis – Thanks Dennis!
March 24, 2010 at 10:05 am
Karthik Vijayakumar
Ravi,
You told me she was ill, but never thought it was this serious. I’m sorry to know about this, but I’d like to thank God for having shown you (and her) the way – She will recover completely very soon. Our prayers are with her. Godspeed…
Hope all is well otherwise.
@karthik – Thanks for your nice words. Her staples and stitches come out tomorrow and she will start her Chemo treatments. Will keep you updated.
March 25, 2010 at 6:36 am
Shumit Vatsal
Ravi,
Just got a chance to read your blog dude. I really hope your mom gets better. I can totally feel you here..just keep your head up and pray. She will surely get better. Let me know if you need ANYTHING.
much love,
Shumit
http://shumtivatsal.blogspot.com/
@Shumit Thanks for your support and nice words.
March 25, 2010 at 1:33 pm
Narayani Barve
Hi Ravi.. I wish speedy recovery for your mother..
@Narayani Thanks for your good wishes. How are Vijay and Toshita?
March 26, 2010 at 8:30 am
berto
Hey Ravi, this is really sad to hear man. So sorry for your situation. Things will get better with God’s help. Don’t worry. Wish you the best!
@berto Thanks for leaving the comment and your wishes, Roberto.
March 29, 2010 at 9:09 am
Gautham Palani
I am deeply sorry to hear your mothers health condition. Here is praying for her health and speedy recovery. Many of us like you having to work in another country and worry about our parents health is a tough proposition. We understand and as friends are here to give you strength during your time of need.
– gautham
@Gautham – Thanks for kinds words and offer of support.
April 4, 2010 at 5:29 pm
Hemant Sant
Hope your mom gets recovered quickly. Also real nice photo !!
Regards, Hemant
@Hemant – Thanks for your wishes. How are you doing?
April 9, 2010 at 1:13 am
dorine
Sometimes we do little things in life not knowing what fruit it will bear. You ran the marathon for breast cancer not predicting the future, but god who knows everything miraculously did things even without you noticing it. You went to India, saw your mother and because you were there you took her to the doctor and found out the rest. I pray that God continues to give you the courage that he has always given you to do good deeds. About your mom she will be just fine, she is a fighter and will come out of this difficult situation.
@dorine – Thanks for your nice words and for visiting my blog.
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May 27, 2010 at 2:29 pm
Sireesha M
I came across this website when I was googling for orthopedics in Tiruchirapally, Tamil Nadu. I read your article on India Visit, Breast Cancer, Osteporosis.
My parents left for Trichy after a six month visit to the US and my dad fell ill. One doctor has diagnosed that my dad is suffering bone tuberculosis. Could you pl suggest a good ortho doctor in Trichy. I understand that your mom was also treated by an ortho doctor. Please. This information will be very useful for me. I do not have anyone in Trichy, except my parents, who could help me in this regard. I left Trichy 15 years ago and the internet is only my source of information about Trichy. I will soon visit them and i would like to take him to an ortho doctor.
Thank you, in advance.
Best Wishes,
Sireesha
Fremont, CA
@Sireesha – Thanks for visiting my blog. I have emailed you the contact details of Dr. D. Vijayaraghavan, the Orthopedic who treated my mother.